Are you a procrastinator? Or do you have a habit of procrastinating?
Are you lazy? Or do you have a habit of being lazy?
Are you stupid? Or do you have tendencies of stupidity?
Are you you depressed? Or do you experience periods of depression?
Are you shy? Or do you experience periods of shyness?
Can you distinguish the difference between the two? Great!
Now listen up, because I’m about to yell in your face:
You are YOU! Unique, different, awesome, passionate, the bomb dot com. And what you tell yourself, the words that you use everyday, are sooooo powerful and impacting. The two most powerful words in the human language are “I AM”… What you say after I AM determines your destiny. I AM stupid… I AM depressed… I AM broke… I AM stressed… I AM shy… I AM ________… Pretty powerful, isn’t it?
So let me ask you a question – why are you trying to change yourself? Why do you stress and focus on what you are doing wrong and what you need to “fix”? You don’t need to be fixed! I want you to shift your focus to changing your behavior instead. If you have a habit of being lazy, you need to understand that you are not a lazy person at your core. That’s not the definition of who you are as a person. You just happen to experience periods in your life where you exhibit lazy BEHAVIOR. And identifying with this behavior means that you were born lazy, you will continue to be lazy, and you are destined to be lazy for the rest of your life. Doesn’t that sound so constrained and limiting? And you were not born to this earth to be limited. You are in fact a limitless being, with limitless potential.
So how do you do this? You change your words! I AM powerful! I AM BEAUTIFUL! I AM smart! I AM LIMITLESS! I AM enough! I have limitless potential and I can choose to be and do anything!
You get my drift?!? GREAT! Now that we’ve got that cleared up, let’s talk about the word choice and how it relates.
Choice is another powerful word that can work for you or against you. You can choose to be lazy, or you can choose not to be lazy. One serves you, and the other one doesn’t. The thing about choice is that YOU need to get down and dirty and determine what behaviors serve you and which one don’t, and toss those to the curb. Focus on the behaviors that serve you, that will lift you up, that will help you grow, that will make you shine bright like a diamond.
But remember, throughout this process of growth and self-acceptance, the issue is not you, but the behavior that is no longer serving you and your destiny. Understanding this will help you empower yourself to make the changes necessary to your behavior without coming from a place of lack, fault or fail. The absolute worst thing you can do to motivate yourself to change is make yourself feel like shit. This in fact demotivates you completely and it NEVER works.
Instead, focus on positivity, motivating literature and music, and inspired action that uplifts you into the version of yourself that you most aspire to become. It is from this place that you can make any change and do anything that you deem necessary to transform into the best version of yourself. You are beautiful, you are capable, you are limitless.
And so it is…